I’m sure that this situation plagues more people than I could imagine. Although it has never happened to me, or any of my friends (thus far), but it’s something I’ve always wondered about conquering. How would YOU deal with it? What if you were planning a FAB wedding and found out your maid of honor got knocked up? I did some research and I’ll share with you what I found…
Well, for starters, DO NOT make your friend feel like their pregnancy it’s a burden on you. Be happy for her and congratulate her, just like you would at any other time. It’s a time of excitement for her and her family & naturally she will expect (and deserves) the same support she is giving you, by being in your wedding.
1) If you have NOT already ordered your bridesmaid dresses when you find out your friend is pregnant.
The first step is to calculate how many months pregnant she will be at the time of your wedding. Perhaps she has been pregnant before and will be able to anticipate her size and weight fluctuations. Although, do not be disappointed is these are not exactly “spot-on” because every pregnancy is different.
When it comes time to select the actual dress that your bridesmaids will be wearing, pay close attention to the cut and style of the dress. Be sure to consider the comfort and fit for each girl. You may also want to think about weather your wedding style would accommodate each girl wearing a different design dress in a cohesive color(s).
If you choose a fitted or straight cut dress, give your expecting friend the option to not only go up in size, but perhaps pick out a dress that she feels confident in. Maybe even one that flaunts her tummy! Most importantly, stand by her in her decision. Yes, it is your wedding, but all of your bridesmaids need to feel good about how they look during.
2) If you have already ordered your bridesmaid dresses when you find out about your friend’s new addition.
Here’s where the creativity of your bridal shop comes in. They may take in to account the unexpectedness of this circumstance, and let you change the order; allowing you to get a bigger or different dress. However, if they inform you that it’s too late for such alterations, simply ask them to order a few extra yards of material. With a bit of tailoring, a skilled seamstress will be able to show off your friend’s new condition and make the existing dress work. That way, neither of you are too “put out”.
I hope this helps with any of you who may need to find some options for your upcoming wedding, with a close friend who is expecting a little miracle! 🙂
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